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It Was Always About Sex Review "It Was Always About Sex". It Doesn’t Matter If Women Change Their Names When They Marry, It Matters If Men Do by Soraya Chemaly, July 2015. Girls and women are still under tremendous pressure to define themselves and their public identities relationally, in ways that men aren’t. Male attitudes even in modern times have not changed much. "As one so pointedly put it, even “hyphenation is a direct 'f*ck you' to a man’s masculinity… it elevates his father-in-law’s manhood over his own.” A name, the first gift any human being is given, a “symbol of one’s self,” is important. If people claiming they believe in gender equality want meaningful symbols, then they should be egalitarian about creating them. As Jill Filipovic explained several years ago, when girls and women “see our names as temporary or not really ours…that impacts our perception of ourselves and our role in the world. It lessens the belief that our existence is valuable unto itself, and that as individuals we are already whole.” Read the article... |
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